I stumbled across a new blog last week Narnold Knows you should head over and check him out plenty of good blogs to read. I came across one that I really enjoyed and thought I have a crack at answering these questions.
Check out the Blog Gay Questions over on his page it is worth a read. It did make me think yes this is very true, as gay man I always get asked lots of question mainly from heterosexual men and women about my lifestyle. I am very open when people ask me question, I think it allows people to see just because I am gay we aren’t all that different especially straight male friends I think they are usually some of the most curious. I believe if we answer questions honestly we can cut out some of the negative feelings that are fuelled from peoples ignorance.
We are taught as children to ask questions when we don’t know something but it seems as if we forget this as we get older or that it becomes frowned upon to ask questions. I hope that any adult that wants to know more would feel comfortable enough to ask questions to educate themselves and see things from someone else’s perspective before drawing a complete conclusion.
On to the Questions that Narnold Knows answered and I may even throw a feel extra ones in at the end.
WHEN DID YOU KNOW YOU WERE GAY?
Looking back now I probably had some inclination that I was gay or at least different during High School probably from the age of 14. When I was noticing other guys in the change rooms and when looking at porn that it was the guy I was noticing rather then the girls. But as a boy not knowing what these feelings or anything was I suppressed it and really wasn’t until I was in my 20’s that I begun to accept and go with the fact that I was gay.
DO YOU THINK YOU WERE BORN GAY?
I haven’t really thought about this but I definitely think most likely as I think the only real reason I was “attracted” to females growing up was because it was considered the “norm” and even 20 years ago being Gay wasn’t seen on TV or in Public.
WHAT’S ONE OF YOUR EARLIEST MEMORIES OF BEING ATTRACTED TO BOYS?
Probably one of the earliest memories I have being attracted to boys, would be (repressed memories) of looking at the other guys in the change rooms in high and really during those years not taking any notice of the girls at school really but taking notice of the boys.
DO YOU THINK SEXUALITY IS A SPECTRUM?
I definitely think sexuality is a spectrum whether it is like the Kinsey Scale of 0 to 6 or a million different things in between. Lets go with Kinsey Scale and just say that if that is the case I am a big fat 6 on it but I do know Gay and Bi Men that would probably fit anywhere from 3 to a 6 so everyone has their own views on who they are attracted to, I think you just need to not pigeon hole yourself and you can just love who you love whether it is the same sex or the opposite.
WHEN AND HOW DID YOU COME OUT?
You can head over and read about my Coming Out long story short I came out when I was around 22-23 to my family, I was out to my friends probably around 21 maybe a little after no major dramas or world ending experiences besides my own worries.
HOW DID YOUR STRAIGHT MALE FRIENDS REACT?
But the time I came out a lot of my friends were gay and the ones who are straight were friends with my gay ones already so it wasn’t really a big deal. I was lucky enough to not have drams in this area. Even my straight mates that I worked with that didn’t have any gay friends were really understanding and it was no big deal at all.
CAN YOU TELL WHEN OTHER GUYS ARE GAY?
I certainly get a feeling if I think someone is gay but it can often be confused with my “wish they were gaydar”. So really there isn’t a way to tell, well some you can but I have met guys you wouldn’t necessarily think are gay when you first meet them hell even some of my mates are like that.
ARE GAY RELATIONSHIPS MAINLY FOCUSED ON SEX?
I think every relationship whether or not it is gay or straight relationship their is a certain aspect that is focused on sex. I do think stereo typically
ARE YOU A TOP OR A BOTTOM?
Sshhhhh it’s a a secret!!! No really its a secret not even my previous partners know….kidding. I am not sure I have ever mentioned it ever in my blog before.
What I find strangest about this question is why straight people and mainly guys are really interested in their gay friends sex lives its rather fascinating. I am really open about it so I don’t mind sharing. I am versatile for me it really depends on my mood and my partner and you know what they say variety is the spice of life.
IS ONE PERSON USUALLY THE TOP?
Gay 101…..The Top is the fucker and The Bottom is the receiver.
Some like to Just Top, Some like to Just Bottom, Some like to do both and some like to do neither. Like anything in this world we all have preferences of what we like to do and what we don’t like to do. I assume that it is the same for heterosexual people but never having had sex with a women can’t completely judge.
I asked on my social media what questions my gay followers get asked from straight people these were some of the responses.
- I know a guy who is perfect for you want me to set you up?
- Now that gay marriage is legal when are you guys getting married?
- Oh Cool! Can you be my gay best friend?
- OH Are you gay? I couldn’t tell you seem so straight.
- Whose the girl in the relationship?
- How do you know who the girl and who the guy is in the relationship?
- Who’s the Top and Who’s the Bottom?
- Why are you so sexy and gay? Such a waste.
- What’s it like eating your own cum?
- How do you deal with accidental poops during sex?
- **Points at boyfriend** Are you two brothers?
- How do you do anal? (Points at African American Boyfriend) True Story from a friend of mine
- Who wears the dress at the wedding?
- Can I feel your butt? You’re gay so its ok
- How do you know you’re not straight if you have never been with a chick?
- Would you ever sleep with someone of the opposite sex? Who could Turn You?
These all came from real people, some of the bizarre things straight people apparently want to know.
Peoples Curiously never stops amazing me.
Remember you can always ask the question just remember there is a respectful way to ask it.
Out for another Friday enjoy the weekend